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Being Brave Means Being Scared
I’ll never forget the day I realized that being brave means being scared. It completely changed my perspective. True bravery is staying grounded even when fear shows up. Lately, I’ve been reflecting on the word flexibility. To really be flexible, you have to get comfortable with discomfort or even disappointment. This is what I’m helping…
✨ Prediction can be a form of self-care. ✨
One powerful tool I use with clients is helping them predict what emotions might come up in different situations. While optimism is wonderful, it’s not always realistic. We feel nervous, scared, worried, anxious—and that’s okay. But when we can predict these emotions, they’re less of a shock, and we’re better prepared to handle them. That…
✨ Have You Heard of the Let Down Effect? ✨
This past week, I noticed something interesting and shared it with a parent. They mentioned there might be a term for it—so I did some digging, and it’s called The Let Down Effect. 💡 What is it?The Let Down Effect happens when your body reacts to the end of a stressful event (like holidays, big…
✨ Learning to Relish the “In Between” ✨
In early childhood and with neurodivergent individuals, transitions are often a big focus—but what if rushing through them misses something important? The “In Between” is more than just a pause; it’s the space where our brain and body shift gears. For neurodivergent children and adults, this can be especially significant. It’s a moment to pause,…
Macro vs. Micro
For years, I’ve worked to drive change at the macro level when my clients transition into supported living— advocating with social services, DSHS, and providing training and coaching to caregivers. Recently, though, I’ve shifted more focus to the micro level, helping my clients build resilience and better manage the challenges of supported living and the…
What I Noticed: relaxed vs tired
Don’t assume yawning means tired.When I notice that my client has yawned, I pause and appreciate the yawn. Rarely does it mean that they are tired or not paying attention. Most of the time it means they are settling in and co-regulating with me. Neuroscience: Yawning is often associated with fatigue, but it can also be a…
Accepting the Facts: Navigating Client Decisions
In my line of work, I’ve often encountered clients who find themselves stuck in a cycle of saying no to various requests or situations. How do we move forward? Well first we must “accept the facts” and then acknowledge out feelings and one crucial aspect of my approach is emphasizing that clients are not obligated…
A regulated prediction vs. worry
In our journey towards self-regulation, making predictions can be a powerful tool. But here’s the thing: not all predictions are created equal. There’s a difference between a regulated prediction and plain old worry prediction. As a somatic behavioral coach, I often guide my clients through this distinction. Regulated prediction involves a thoughtful assessment of potential…
“Listen to be impacted”
Over the recent weekend, I had the privilege of attending a workshop led by Marie Thouin, and she shared some insights that truly resonated with me: “listen to be impacted.” While we often hear about the importance of active listening – nodding, paraphrasing, and showing attentiveness – Marie emphasized something deeper. She urged us to…
Innovating out of necessity
Did you know back in 2009 I started a side business helping neurodivergent children and adults use the iPad? Innovating out of necessity, I devised various solutions to make iPads more user-friendly for my clients. From crafting home button covers to designing gloves with the pointer finger exposed for precise interaction, every invention aimed to…